They actually just want us to acknowledge their struggle: “You’re really not happy about the Nutella, huh?” It’s as simple as that. If your child’s not okay, they probably don’t want us to fix it or solve it or make it better. They are seeking that connection 24 hours a day, and they will seek it any way they can. If they’re acting out, chances are good they need more connection with you. No matter what the behavior, children are never choosing to get it wrong. There’s no modifying challenging behavior without figuring out the root cause. You can find Gen reminds us that you need to name it to tame it. Obstetric Social Worker and Parent Educator Genevieve Muir joins Host Jessica Rolph to provide tips on finding the origin of these emotional flare ups. But we still don’t know why it went off in the first place. If the pressure is great enough, the alarm will stop. Punishment is like taking a hose and pointing it at the alarm.
There are lots of parenting experts talking about choosing connection over discipline, but today’s guest on My New Life has a fresh take on limit-setting: She compares bad behavior to a smoke alarm going off.
